I think oral sex became a bigger issue when Bill Clinton called it - not really sex. Mostly I write on this subject for Christian young people who may want to know where to draw the line before marriage on this subject. After marriage, to each their own and what both are comfortable with, but before marriage young couples think this is a reasonable alternative to actual intercourse. The Bible say nothing about the subject but here are few things to consider:
1. Every sexual experience you have with another person outside the person who will become your spouse you will take with you into marriage. You will be always comparing your previous experiences with what you have later so the less you have the better. It means less baggage. The question becomes what if you have oral sex with a person you do not become married to in the end. The person you do get married to is uncomfortable with it and does not do it. Do you really want to have a potential fantasy or memory with someone else besides your spouse? Oh and nothing is guaranteed in any relationship so don't go thinking -- "there is no way were not getting married" because until your married there is always a possibility of break up even at the altar. I don't care who you are this is always true.
2. STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) can be transmitted through oral sex. It still involves fluid transfer so it is not necessarily safe sex.
3. I think the sin of lust becomes a greater problem the further a couple gets involved in sexual activities and oral sex is getting dangerously close to going all the way. It wouldn't take much after that point to be tempted to do some thing that will change your relationship forever.
Given all this I would not recommend oral sex outside of marriage. In fact my advice has always been -- keep it to holding hands and a good night kiss until you do tie the knot and you will never have any regrets at all.
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